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Patience The Story Of A Proper Girl Improperly In Love As It Was Subtitled When It Came Out In America, The Year After It Was Published In England , Patience Is About The Eponymous Heroine, Year Old Patience Gathorne Galley Who Has Three Small Daughters And Is, She Thinks, Newly Pregnant In The First Chapter Her Brother, A Devout Catholic Whereas Patience Is A Rather Unthinking Catholic, Nevertheless She Undeniably Is One Comes To Tea To Tell Her That Her Husband Edward Is Being Unfaithful Patience, Who Is Perfectly Happy With Her Husband, Her Children And Her St John S Wood Life, Is Not Too Upset, In Fact She Is Curious Than Anything Else Because A Her Husband Had Never Seemed Inattentive, On The Contrary, B She Is Mystified At The Thought Of Another Woman Going To Bed With Edward Out Of ChoiceFortuitously For This Is A Caper, A Farce, A Satire, Something Unreal Which Is Why Coincidence Is Allowable Patience Meets Philip And Upon Going Back With Him To His Room In Regent S Park Realises That Through Seven Years Of Marriage She Has Never Understood The Meaning Of Married Love, Has Never Had A Moment Of Sexual Pleasure, Has Been Cheated By Her Husband Of True Happiness This Is What Tribune Magazine Told Its Readers, Assuring Them That There Was No Melodrama Or Pornography Here Patience Is A Truly Delightful, Idyllic Story Of A Simple Soul S Discovery Of The Beauties Of Sexual Love And Her Attempts To Reconcile It With Her Mild Catholicism And Her Ardent Maternal Love I was charmed and amused by Patience but I didn t really care for her I found her naivety cartoonish, really over the top but I m not sure if that was because this book was written in the 1950 s, or because the author is male I very much appreciated the English humor and I just delighted in reading a Persephone novel I admit I did laugh often and even though it s been a few days, I m still thinking about this book. Patience is described by Persephone books as being a sophisticated and delightful novel it is also a gentle little comedy I m not sure I would use the word sophisticated myself but I do think there is a surprising sharpness to this novel which lies submerged beneath the gentle humour.patience2Patience Gathorne Galley is a perfect dutiful 1950 s wife, except for the fact she has only managed to produced three adorable little blonde haired girls, rather than the preferred son her husband so l Patience is described by Persephone books as being a sophisticated and delightful novel it is also a gentle little comedy I m not sure I would use the word sophisticated myself but I do think there is a surprising sharpness to this novel which lies submerged beneath the gentle humour.patience2Patience Gathorne Galley is a perfect dutiful 1950 s wife, except for the fact she has only managed to produced three adorable little blonde haired girls, rather than the preferred son her husband so longs for It is hard for women today to conceive of a time when women went from their parents home to their husband s home, wholly na ve and almost totally unprepared.For some women, maybe many women this was still the case as recently as the 1950 s Patience, an attractive twenty eight year old, has been married to a man in his forties for seven years as the novel opens, a marriage which was practically arranged for her by her mother Her knowledge and understanding of sex extends only to her dutiful, Catholic submission to her husband, which she uses to plan the meals for the following day Patience is a Catholic, her husband is not Patience is true to her faith, she believes in Sin and hell and damnation, but in the way an unquestioning child might there is no fervour, no religious zeal Her brother Lionel a truly horrid man has enough religious zeal for both of them, he worries about Sin, sees it in everyone, he appears unconcerned that his own wife has chosen to retire permanently to a cloistered religious retreat, and no wonder Patience and Lionel s sister, Helen, is divorced, now married to an Anglican solicitor Lionel refers to Helen s second husband as her paramour Dear Patience and she is a dear although I may have wanted to shake her slightly once or twice divides her world into those she loves and the rest of the people who she likes Patience loves her sister, Helen, her darling babies Star, Sue and Sal, while her husband Edward it seems fits into the other group When Lionel almost gleefully tells Patience of the terrible Sin he has uncovered that he has seen her husband coming out of a hotel with another woman, her reaction is surprising Patience is puzzled why any woman would want to go to bed with Edward when she didn t have to Patience begins to hope that Edward s mystery woman might take over that side of things for her and leave her to peacefully adoring her babies However almost immediately, at a dinner party given by her sister and brother in law Patience meets Philip, and falls madly in love, and in lust Patience s sexual awakening after seven years of marriage and three children is hilariously unlikely and yet the novel is so engaging and Patience herself so sweet that despite much tutting and head shaking andthan a wry smile or two I couldn t help but thoroughly enjoy it She understood in a sort of flash of revelation almost everything Lionel had ever told her It really was different getting into bed with someone who wasn t your husband And no wonder Lionel was so anxious no one should begin, because once having begun, and knowing how lovely it was, one would find it very difficult to stop I wasn t sure I quite believed the speed with which Patience fell for Philip the concert pianist, good and sweet though he undoubtedly is Within about three days Patience has slept with Philip several times and is considering whether she too can divorce her husband and live in Sin with another man However things take a surprising turn when Patience goes through her husband s desk looking for evidence of his affair Patience shows a staggering naivety in English marriage law, and what the state consider lawfully married as opposed to what the Church consider lawfully married.Under gentle instruction by her sister and Solicitor brother in law, Patience turns the tables on dear bottom patting Edward, allowing him to make all the mistakes she needs him to, in order to end their marriage legally Patience learns that she possesses an extraordinary power, that she had previously been unaware of, sex All this is deliciously wicked, and it is no wonder the novel was banned in Ireland.There is a slightly selfish naivety about Patience brought about by her childlike inability to recognise her responsibility to others She mostly only considers herself and her babies, she loves Philip but there seems only little understanding for the enormity of the upheaval to his life.This novel certainly satirises dutiful, Catholic marriage, and the fact that this novel was written by a man was a constant surprise to me There were moments when the cynic in me wondered whether the character of a dutiful innocent young wife was merely a male fantasy of what one was but in the end decided that was rather unfair John Coates writing is deceptively sharp, with a surprisingly cynical twist right at the end which I rather appreciated The tone of the novel is a deceptively simple one Patience s voice is perfectly delightful, childlike whimsy Despite its few flaws I really thoroughly enjoyed this surprising little novel and I would really like to readby this writer, I think he must have hadto say about the society in which he lived The subtitle is A Proper Girl Improperly in Love so I obviously loved this. I was intrigued by this book The summer before last, when I heard Nicola Beauman speak at my library, she mentioned that she was delighted she had found a comedy that would bring something new, something that she felt was missing from the Persephone list It was too early for her to share any of the details, but I m quite sure that this is it It s the story of 28 year old Patience Gathorne Galley She s a good Catholic girl, independently wealthy with a husband, Edward, and three little girls, I was intrigued by this book The summer before last, when I heard Nicola Beauman speak at my library, she mentioned that she was delighted she had found a comedy that would bring something new, something that she felt was missing from the Persephone list It was too early for her to share any of the details, but I m quite sure that this is it It s the story of 28 year old Patience Gathorne Galley She s a good Catholic girl, independently wealthy with a husband, Edward, and three little girls, Star, Sue and Sal But Patience is an innocent, hopelessly naive She relies on her siblings for advice Lionel is a good devout Catholic, whose wife s desertion hasn t shaken his faith one iota Helen, on the other hand, is a lapsed Catholic, living in sin with an Anglican solicitor Ah yes, SIN That word is writ large in all their lives Lionel takes the avoidance of sin terribly seriously Helen is rathersanguine, but she hasn t completely lost the values she was raised with And Patience knew that it was a very bad thing that she really should avoid She really was that naive, a young woman passed directly from her parents to her husband with no chance at all to look at the world around her She was surprised when Lionel told her that Edward had a mistress He was a good, reliable husband, and why ever would a woman want to go to bed with a man when it wasn t her marital duty Yes, there was a story waiting to happen here And happen it did Patience met a man Phillip She fell in love And in lustShe understood in a sort of flash of revelation almost everything Lionel had ever told her It really was different getting into bed with someone who wasn t your husband And no wonder Lionel was so anxious no one should begin, because once having begun, and knowing how lovely it was, one would find it very difficult to stop When she confided in Helen her sister assured her that it wasn t just the fact that Phillip wasn t her husband that made the difference And then Patience knew that her future had to be spent with Phillip and her babies But however could she disentangle herself from Edward and not fall into sin Patience s attempts to do that, to reach her happy ending, make this a charming comedy of manners It sails along beautifully, with lovely dialogue batted back and forth by beautifully drawn characters I could see them and I could hear their voices I could imagine actors on a stage having wonderful fun with this material too John Coates captures the feminine psyche extraordinarily well I am inclined to believe that he was brought up with sisters, and that maybe he had a colourful aunt or two But that s just speculation, so let s just say he understands women He writes beautifully too, with a light touch, with a lovely turn of phrase, and with just the right amount of wit I found that I could even forgive Patience s habit of addressing everyone as dear Patience s faith, and the problems created by the differences between church and secular law, provided a serious thread that counterbalanced the comedy and the romance quite beautifully There were some very nice twists and turns along the way Moments of comedy and moments of joy deftly handled I turned the pages quickly and stayed up rather later than I had planned because I so wanted to know what was going to happen And yet my feelings were mixed There were times when I found Patience irksome It is one thing to be a simple soul, but even the simplest souls have some awareness, some concern for the feelings of others But Patience didn t she was utterly oblivious, thinking only of what she wanted It was wonderful that her discovery of love and passion swept away everything, save her maternal love, but I found it hard to believe that any grown woman could be quite so insensitive to other people s feelings Maybe that saysabout me than the book I ve often been told that I m too serious, and that I over think things But I m afraid that near the end, when Patience said that she had grown up and all that it meant that she wasforceful in getting her own way I was bitterly disappointed I just needed some little acknowledgement that she might have been thoughtless, or some little sign that she had sympathy or understanding for others But it never came And an afterword revealed that Patience never really grew up at all Seeing love conquer all was delightful, and the way that the story played out was a joy But, to me, this looks like a flawed gem I saw the beauty and the flaws, but I suspect some will see only the beauty and others will see only the flaws I d like to read it again soon, because I don t rule out feeling differently on a different day, and I m going to be very, very curious to find out how other readers react when they meet Patience Not chic lit When you fall in love, seven years into marriage and three babies later, what to do when the person you love is not your husband I really enjoyed this light hearted and funny story of a naive wife and mother who discovers that her husband is having an affair, but doesn t mind because it gives her the chance to explore an awakening of her own.I don t think it s meant to be realistic Everything s far too providential and exaggerated Just an enjoyable romp. No summary of the plot of this book can give even an inkling of its charm Patience is a strict Catholic who has produced 3 daughters in less than 7 years of marriage to Edward, an older man chosen for her by her mother even though he is not a Catholic The novel starts when Patience s repressed brother Lionel informs her that Edward has a mistress On the rebound from this shattering revelation, Patience sleeps with a penniless musician, Philip, with whom she has her first orgasm ever Discover No summary of the plot of this book can give even an inkling of its charm Patience is a strict Catholic who has produced 3 daughters in less than 7 years of marriage to Edward, an older man chosen for her by her mother even though he is not a Catholic The novel starts when Patience s repressed brother Lionel informs her that Edward has a mistress On the rebound from this shattering revelation, Patience sleeps with a penniless musician, Philip, with whom she has her first orgasm ever Discovering all at once what love and sex are all about, Patience decides to get rid of Edward and make a life with Philip, a daunting prospect for an observing Catholic However, when ransacking Edward s desk for evidence of his affair, she finds proof that his first wife is still alive Therefore, although Edward was legally divorced when he married her, in the eyes of the Catholic Church he should not have married her There is never any doubt of where this fairytale is going of course Patience finds true happiness after managing to push Edward in the arms of his mistress without him suspecting that she has a lover of her own What makes this novel utterly delightful to read is the author s lightness of touch Patience s sexual awakening and gradual reconciliation of her religion with her newly gained agency are described with gentle humor Patience gets wise to the ways of men without losing anything of her sweetness and innocence in the best sense of the word In the end, although she reassesses a number of the tenets of her religion, she keeps her faith in a loving God intact Deceptively simple and in an odd way timeless Patience 28 years old, and already the mother of three daughters is an obedient and submissive wife in the upper middle English style She defers to her husband Edward and Nanny, and has a generalised well being due mostly to her own beauty and wealth, her happiness in her small children and an ability to take pleasure in small things She rarely has a serious or analytical thought, and isor less wafting through life when she stumbles upon evidence that her husband Edward not only has Patience 28 years old, and already the mother of three daughters is an obedient and submissive wife in the upper middle English style She defers to her husband Edward and Nanny, and has a generalised well being due mostly to her own beauty and wealth, her happiness in her small children and an ability to take pleasure in small things She rarely has a serious or analytical thought, and isor less wafting through life when she stumbles upon evidence that her husband Edward not only has a mistress but eveninconveniently, a first wife who is still alive As Patience is a practicing Catholic, the presence of this wife seems to indicate that her own marriage is invalid When Patience falls in love with Philip, a concert pianist, the situation devolves into a bit of a muddle Having just experienced love and lust for the first time, Patience is both losing her innocence and becomingworldly in the sense of managing men, Sin and the strictures of the Catholic church.The tone of this novel is drawing room comedy light, arch, satirical The protagonist is a bird brained well brought up girl who is perhaps not as dumb as she seems It all moves along at a fast clip, and was hugely readable, but didn t make much of an impression on me Perhaps I read it in the wrong mood, but it just seemed a bit silly What a powerful indictment of religion s singular ability to impede us from being fully human, from experiencing our freedom and the joy of incarnation The protagonist, Patience, is surprised by her sudden ability to experience human love in an otherwise comfortable but passionless life She deems its pursuit to be worth the possible scorn of family and friends She is fortunate to have a sister who had provided a model for self realization and the financial means to facilitate a new life Pa What a powerful indictment of religion s singular ability to impede us from being fully human, from experiencing our freedom and the joy of incarnation The protagonist, Patience, is surprised by her sudden ability to experience human love in an otherwise comfortable but passionless life She deems its pursuit to be worth the possible scorn of family and friends She is fortunate to have a sister who had provided a model for self realization and the financial means to facilitate a new life Patience doesn t precisely lose her Catholic faith, but rather in the meaning of innocence and virginity and Sin and in the importance of behaving as she was meant to behave In so doing, she becomesfully herself, which is what we are all meant to do in the short time allotted us


About the Author: John Coates

John Coates was born in 1912 into a Yorkshire engineering family He went to Haileybury and then read English at Cambridge, where he spent most of his time acting and writing plays and became President of Footlights See Persephone Books


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