[Epub] ↠ Conscious Loving Author Gay Hendricks – Writerscompany.co.uk

Conscious Loving About 6 months ago I made a commitment to myself to really look at all of my stuff The good, the bad and the ugly That includes how I show up in relationships Doing the groundwork while single can only lead tofulfilling relationships in the future, I mean, duh This book did a stellar job at breaking down all the areas we humans create insanity in our relationships From withholding feelings, projecting our crap on to our partners and failing to take responsibility for our own reality About 6 months ago I made a commitment to myself to really look at all of my stuff The good, the bad and the ugly That includes how I show up in relationships Doing the groundwork while single can only lead tofulfilling relationships in the future, I mean, duh This book did a stellar job at breaking down all the areas we humans create insanity in our relationships From withholding feelings, projecting our crap on to our partners and failing to take responsibility for our own reality On a side note, once we realize that every single thing that happens to us is in fact created by none other than ourselves, well, then the game changes We can no longer play the victim card or blame anyone else for our drama It s so fu king freeing and empowering In Conscious Loving, Gay Kathlyn Hendricks are speaking my language They just tell it like it is and it feels like a breathe of fresh air To understand that we create all of our relationships out of our unconscious feelings, needs and patterns is a giant leap forward Then we are on your way to having a heightened state of awareness that will allow us to really see what s going on I have zero desire to lie to myself, my future partner or anyone in my life That doesn t lead to deep, meaningful relationships It only leads to surface level partnerships BORING with an extra spoonful of NO THANK YOU This book will help you keep it realz Check out Conscious Loving if you want to grow in your ability to actually show up in all of your relationships It s a God damn jungle out there people Why not do all we can to become whole And I mean, enlightenment is defiantly sexy M E O W No, nothing new Which is precisely what makes this so good This is the stuff of time tested common sense, the stuff of that inner voice of wisdom, the one that is always trying to steer you in the right direction, even as you kick and scream and resist, intent on remaining on the old path of repeated and repeated and repeated cycles We repeat them until we learn the lesson Resolve the dilemma Solve the puzzle If the Hendricks message is to be boiled down to one catch phrase, it would simpl No, nothing new Which is precisely what makes this so good This is the stuff of time tested common sense, the stuff of that inner voice of wisdom, the one that is always trying to steer you in the right direction, even as you kick and scream and resist, intent on remaining on the old path of repeated and repeated and repeated cycles We repeat them until we learn the lesson Resolve the dilemma Solve the puzzle If the Hendricks message is to be boiled down to one catch phrase, it would simply be wake up It is not so much about change, as it is about living with our eyes open, fully aware conscious of why we do what we do, how we feel while we are doing it, and which way we will go next Instead of moving through a fog, we instead make conscious choices If we can add one concept to that catch phrase, it would be the concept of accountability Relationships, and not just romantic ones, tend to bog down most when we get busy issuing blame and pointing fingers Hendricks proposes that we are all, each and every one of us, to be held accountable for our own lives No victims, no martyrs And co dependents, out with you A satisfying relationship is one that takes place between two people who make a 100 percent each commitment nothing less will do or failure has room to enter to themselves and to each other It begins with a promise to be authentic to ourselves and to always tell what Hendricks calls the microscopic truth Our lives are what we make them And if we don t like our lives, well, it is up to each of us to make the necessary changes We must be honest with ourselves above all, but we must respect our mates with utmost honesty as well It is the only solid building block that holds up a strong and satisfying relationship One might balk at the wrongs done us, and oh the pity parties we do enjoy, when we are lied to and cheated on and our backs wear the footprints of others But consider how far one gets in improving that situation when busy whining I m a victim poor sap me and when one instead takes a moment to consider how did I manifest this How have I taught others to treat me Have I made my personal boundaries clear Have I offered and insisted upon honesty Have I rescued my mate from the natural outcome of his or her bad behavior, thus robbing them of a learning experience Have I been true to myself and expressed how I feel It is not about letting our mates off the hook for bad behavior that s dishonest, too We hold our partners fully accountable, too But it is a realization that we are not merely innocent bystanders in the soap operas of our lives The sooner we understand our own part in the drama, the sooner we can enjoy true intimacy and equality with a mate we value and who values us I read this Hendricks book as I recently read Conscious Living with relish I like the idea of being accountable for my life it keeps the reins for my happiness in my own hands, after all And there is so muchto see and enjoy when I make a decision to live my life with eyes wide open My beloved is sharing this book with me We are each reading it with a highlighter in hand, noting what resonates Much has been learned already I look forward to what new levels we might reach in this most basic if not highest human longing to walk shoulder to shoulder with our best life friend, empowering ourselves and each other to be the best we can be Here Is A Powerful New Program That Can Clear Away The Unconscious Agreements Patterns That Undermine Even Your Best Intentions Through Their Own Marriage And Through Twenty Years Experience Counseling Than One Thousand Couples, Therapists Gay And Kathlyn Hendricks Have Developed Precise Strategies To Help You Create A Vital Partnership And Enhance The Energy, Creativity, And Happiness Of Each Individual You Will Learn How To Let Go Of Power Struggles And Need For Control Balance Needs For Closeness And Separateness Increase Intimacy By Telling The Microscopic Truth Communicate In A Positive Way That Stops Arguments Make Agreements You Can Keep Allow Pleasure Into Your Life Addressed To Individuals As Well As To Couples, Conscious Loving Will Heal Old Hurts And Deepen Your Capacity For Enjoyment, Security, And Enduing Love I read this while visiting my father in Ohio No relationshippy book has ever spoken so urgently to me and I ve read a few Self help is my guilty pleasure some adults read romance or Harry Potter on the sly I like the Why Martian Men Who Love Too Much Are Peter Pans In The Bedroom, and Is Your Dog Co Dependent genre The authors write matter of factly about many taboo subjects in relationships that have frankly puzzled me for years What s really happening with us when we begin to again I read this while visiting my father in Ohio No relationshippy book has ever spoken so urgently to me and I ve read a few Self help is my guilty pleasure some adults read romance or Harry Potter on the sly I like the Why Martian Men Who Love Too Much Are Peter Pans In The Bedroom, and Is Your Dog Co Dependent genre The authors write matter of factly about many taboo subjects in relationships that have frankly puzzled me for years What s really happening with us when we begin to again dance the same old dysfunctional dance with a new partner How prevalent is projection it s unavoidable and we all do it to some degree and how does it distort relationships in a matter of seconds What is a power struggle and how do you break its grip on your relationship The answers this husband wife writing team give us are original and revolutionary For instance, in any given power struggle or argument in which blame and criticism are creeping in, the Hendricks insist that there is 200% responsibility to be taken for the situation, and that each partner must, always, both take 200% Why Because we are each of us 100% responsible for our present reality, whatever this might look like The details of this idea fascinate me, and as the authors brush up against realms of mysticism and spirituality in love relationships, they are at their most inspirational Yet practicality is a central component of this book For instance, many people mistake an addiction to adrenaline and a need for approval for love In love, you are fed blissfully high levels of approval, which feeds the real adrenaline of this genuine addiction Approval junkies are, incommon psycho parlance, co dependents They are driven by their unconscious needs into false entanglements , not relationships Practically speaking, many, many people are not in real relationships defined in this book as being between two whole, conscious people , but merely spinning their wheels in entanglements This book is written with a loving, compassionate, optimistic voice The authors never pathologize the offenders in their case studies rather, they make a point of repeating the notion that we have virtually no choice, any of us, in the matter of dysfunctional behavior in our love relationships The work that needs be done, though, is a choice we can make and it will help see us through to the intimacy and love we desire so much with our mates This book is an inspiration and I recommend it to anyone who ever fell in love, became disenchanted, and can t explain what happened in the interim hmm what can i say i highly recommend this for anyone who wants to truly work on a honest relationship after numerous of self help books, this one in particular is special because its so positive, hopeful and the ultimate goal is co creativity but after three years I am still on step 2 of the 7 steps to co comittment but watch out, you might not be ready for how good it is gay and catherine might blow your mind. Probably the most profound relationship book written Very deep and dense, but worth the read I think this is the staple for anyone interested in a conscious relationship What I love about this book as it addresses, what I believe the only real problem in life how much fun can you have, both in relationship and life The Hendricks call it the Upper Limits Problem and by far the most advance tool I ve ever had in enjoying my life Totally recommend it Plus, the appendix has so many processe Probably the most profound relationship book written Very deep and dense, but worth the read I think this is the staple for anyone interested in a conscious relationship What I love about this book as it addresses, what I believe the only real problem in life how much fun can you have, both in relationship and life The Hendricks call it the Upper Limits Problem and by far the most advance tool I ve ever had in enjoying my life Totally recommend it Plus, the appendix has so many processes the reader can do, whether your single or in a relationship I would say the best tools possible to connect with another person, especially the breathing techniques This material saved my life Meh Nothing earth shattering. This is a great book I used this book for all my relationships, work, etc It would be good for me to re read it. When I ordered this book, I did not realize that it dealt with love within marital relationships and not love in general, as in the book Love for no reason by Marci Shimoff, but nonetheless I was by no means disappointed once I got into it I have learnt much from it it provides material that I have not found elsewhere.We learn how to transform co dependent relationships into co committed relationships.Co dependence is an agreement between people to stay locked in unconscious patterns Co When I ordered this book, I did not realize that it dealt with love within marital relationships and not love in general, as in the book Love for no reason by Marci Shimoff, but nonetheless I was by no means disappointed once I got into it I have learnt much from it it provides material that I have not found elsewhere.We learn how to transform co dependent relationships into co committed relationships.Co dependence is an agreement between people to stay locked in unconscious patterns Co commitment is an agreement to becomeconscious When we are co dependent, we do not have relationships but entanglements Co dependence is an addiction to control and approval A co committed relationship is one in which two orpeople support each other in being whole, complete individuals.In our quest towards achieving co committed relationships, Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks take their basis in their own long standing relationship They too have had problems and issues and they here show us how they worked through them.There are three main patterns of behaviour seen in co dependent relationships withholding, withdrawal and projection Withholding is when you keep inside you things that should be expressed Withdrawal is when you pull back from contact Projection is when you attribute to another person something that is actually going on at an unconscious level within yourself.Examples are provided of unconscious deals made by those in co dependent relationships 1 Let s both agree not to look into certain areas of our lives 2 If you don t change, I won t either 3 Let s focus our attention on alcohol or food or drugs instead of solving our problems 4 If you do all the thinking, I ll do all the feeling.The authors identify six core commitments essential in transforming co dependence 1 I commit myself to full closeness, and I commit myself to cleaning up anything in the way of my ability to do so 2 I commit myself to my own complete development as an individual 3 I commit to revealing myself fully in my relationships, not to concealing myself 4 I commit myself to the full empowerment of people around me 5 I commit to acting from the awareness that I am 100 percent the source of my reality a basic one in my opinion 6 I commit myself to having a good time in my close relationships.Moreover, three fundamental requirements are 1 Feel all your feelings 2 Tell the microscopic truth 3 Keep your agreements.The book is packed with psychological insights, or perhaps rather disclosures leading to such on the part of the reader, together with detailed information about how to work with oneself and one s relationships.We are given valuable questions to aid us in discovering what action to take to expedite the process of transforming our lives 1 What feelings have I separated myself from 2 What relationships have I felt incomplete 3 What do I need to do to complete them 4 What agreements have I broken and not cleaned up 5 What have I said I would do that I have not done 6 What have I agreed not to do that I have done 7 What communications have I left unsaid 8 What have I started and not finished 9 To whom do I owe money 10 Whom do I need to forgive 11 To whom do I owe appreciation Part Two of the book is composed of useful activities for transforming your relationship.The authors provide a final insight once you have begun to tell the microscopic truth to each other, saying what you want directly, and experiencing and expressing your true feelings, you may begin to see that all your issues are really one how much positive energy can I handle This matter of having difficulty in dealing with positive energy is gone into in detail throughout the book.To sum up, this is a well written, deeply insightful book that will transform your relationship with your partner, if you read it and follow the authors advice, carrying out the suggested techniques I highly recommend it It has taken me a while to read and assimilate this book but it was worth the time and effort This work presents a concise and easy to understand guide to the working of our conscious and unconscious minds, the roles we play and the projections we make that prevent us from having genuine and meaningful relationships It also outlines the path to achieving an authentic relationship with oneself and others I was very grateful for the final part of the book which provided exercises meant to help It has taken me a while to read and assimilate this book but it was worth the time and effort This work presents a concise and easy to understand guide to the working of our conscious and unconscious minds, the roles we play and the projections we make that prevent us from having genuine and meaningful relationships It also outlines the path to achieving an authentic relationship with oneself and others I was very grateful for the final part of the book which provided exercises meant to help overcome some pitfalls in personal development, which I ve been stumbling over for years I recommend this book to anyone who wants to experience their lifefully, no matter if they re in a relationship or not

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